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I couldn't stop laughing. It's just so relatable. I loved how it wasn't just the task failed but that it did so .... successfully. Brilliant! Yup, I've totally been there ... many times! I'm not sure I've had a laugh attack of that size and scale since the fourth grade. In addition to being a recovering people-pleaser, I'm also a recovering perfectionist. So, what I especially love about this pin is how it brings about laughter instead of self-attacking thoughts like, "I'm a failure" or "I can't do anything right." After recovering my breath and balance, I set the pin back down and we went for a hike. However, the entire time we were hiking, I kept thinking about this pin. I had to go back and get it and ... my hurry-up-Dan-we-have-to-get-there-before-they-close pace reflected that! Over the years, Inner Relationship Focusing's process has helped me cultivate a spacious both/ and way of being rather than a restrictive either/ or state. What does that mean? Great question! Let’s unpack that … Well, it means we can feel many things without one feeling canceling out the others. For example, I can feel exhausted ... AND ... energized...AND.... worried.... AND .... calm. There's room and space for all those feelings to be there just as they are... in whatever shape, intensity or form they take. Just as, I can feel disappointed AND get where someone else is coming from. My experience is real AND so is theirs. Both are true. So, what I love about this pin is how it points to the task failing successfully, not that I failed successfully. Do you feel the difference? Of course, it's hard when something doesn't go the way we hoped. Disappointment can be fertile ground for inner critics to shame, judge, and/ or criticize us. They may say things like, "Well, you really messed that up!," "You were a fool for trying" or "You really are a failure.” And, there may even be a part of us that feels like a failure ... that's shrinking with embarrassment. Or, we may notice a body feel ... a head-to-toe despair or a kind of sinking, slumping collapse. So, what if I said the way to feeling better requires being with your experience in a warm, welcoming and un-rushed kind of way Not fighting it, pushing it, refuting it, fixing it, ignoring it or even changing it. Sounds paradoxical doesn't it? Maybe, even impossible? If you're frustrated by inner critics holding you back and their unrelenting attacks on all the ways you messed up and —keep messing up — then I’m here to help! Click the button below to schedule a free, no-obligation 20-minute chat and we can talk more about how to be with inner critics, so they quiet down and you can do more of what lights you up and brings you joy. Have a wonderful day, Lauren
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