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Have you noticed how the holiday season has a way of intensifying the way we feel? For some, this time of the year feels uplifting, full of celebration and connection. And, for others this time of the year is hard, fraught with family tension, tenderness and loneliness. Perhaps, it’s more of a marbled mix. No wonder this time of year can be so triggering! I get it! Feeling triggered is uncomfortable…. REALLY uncomfortable. Often what makes the situation even worse is when someone with the best of intentions tells us, “It’s not so bad” or “You’re overreacting.” Maybe, that’s even something we say to ourselves as a way of trying to help ourselves calm down. I don’t know about you but, for me, trying to talk myself out of feeling the way I do has never worked. So, what does? Well, instead of pushing away, dimming down, or feeling taken over by a triggered state, we can be with it. Triggers are so darn triggering because they signal something in our present situation is activating an unhealed hurt from our past. There’s some good reason why we’re feeling explosive, panicky, helpless and/or pleasing and appeasing. What may feel like an “out of proportion” reaction is actually your body's way of communicating there's something important going on ... there’s something here that’s wanting your company … wanting to be seen and understood. It’s not bad or wrong. When you’re with the body feel of being triggered in a Focusing way, YOU create the conditions for tension to ease, insights to emerge and healing to happen. We call it changing by not fixing … changing by not doing. If you’re curious to learn how to actually do this, then join me in my upcoming, pay-what-you-can webinar called “Transforming Triggers,” which I’ll be offering through The International Focusing Institute on Thursday, December 14th from 1pm to 3pm ET. The webinar will be recorded and available to all registrants.
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