Wanting Connection,

Without Losing Yourself

A Somatic Approach to Honoring Red Flags and Your Inner Knowing

6-Week Online Course

We're often told to honor red flags and trust our gut—as if it’s that easy and straightforward.

But when we begin to feel wanted, it can be incredibly hard to listen to that inner whisper saying, “Something feels off.”

And sometimes, it’s not even a whisper in words. It’s a bristling body feel—an inner wince, a quiver, or hesitation that lets us know something doesn’t feel quite right.

Can you relate to these experiences?

  • You feel that electrifying, giddy glow as someone is drawn to you and wants to get to know you better. But it’s starting to feel like too much, too fast and yet you don’t want it to slow down. It feels exhilarating.

  • You enjoy the playfulness of getting caught up in the waves of compliments, attention, and encouragement. But you’re starting to wonder if this fairytale might be too good to be true. And then whoosh …. those thoughts get brushed aside because this all feel so delicious and intoxicating.

  • You notice you're uncomfortable. But you don't want to say anything that could disrupt this rush or cause it to come to an abrupt end. You think, “I don’t want to upset him,” “I’m sure she was just joking,” or “Maybe I’m just being too sensitive.” You just really want this relationship to work out.

If you find yourself pushing past red flags or ignoring those inner whispers, it’s not because something is wrong with you.

There are often very understandable reasons why we push past red flags or ignore that feeling of “this feels off” when connection feels possible …

That exhilarating rush of being heard, seen, and delighted in can touch core wounds of not having had enough of that.

You may have experienced a chronic lack of feeling met in ways you needed, so you could feel fully alive and be authentically yourself.

So, no wonder the longing for connection is so strong and the desire is so deep.

You may still be carrying a tangled, complex history of feeling like an outsider or that you’re a burden. Those experiences may have caused you to develop self-beliefs that you’re bad or broken—even unloveable. 

So of course, when someone begins to express an interest or desire in you, there can be an urge to turn away from any red flags.

In this course, you’ll learn a gentle and empowering process to help you …

Notice the urge to push past any red flags, so you can choose what next steps to take (or not take) from a place of self-protective strength, instead of spazzy reactivity or graspy urgency

Get free from feeling stuck in fantasies and wishing this person (or the situation) was different

Listen to a younger you who may still be longing to feel delighted in and loved, so that present-day-you can honor those red flags

Be with any lingering feelings of regret around a time when you wish you had honored your inner knowing— without shame or blame

Sense what you need to feel safe and connected to (without being told you’re too needy, too much or too sensitive), so you can value your feelings and stay true to yourself

Let yourself have the desire for genuine connection and sense the wanting beneath the wanting, so you can feel that aliveness and life forward energy that’s already available to you

As you become more authentically and unapologetically YOU, you’ll be able to …

Recognize love bombing for what it is. Charm will no longer disarm you. You’ll be able to stay connected to yourself and honor that feeling of “this feels off” when someone’s words don’t match their actions or when the pace feels too fast.

Trust your inner knowing—even when it’s hard. You’ll be able to listen to that inner whisper saying, “This doesn’t feel right” and act on it—even if it upsets the person you're with. There will be a growing, embodied attitude of, “I don’t want a connection that costs me myself.”

Repel people who are looking for someone to manipulate and control. By honoring your inner knowing, their tactics lose power, they lose interest, and you’re free to move toward healthier, more genuine relationships where you're valued for who you are— quirks and all!

Authenticity isn't just something that's nice to have—it can actually keep you safe.

Course Structure …

We’ll meet weekly for 1.5 hours over Zoom for 6 weeks.

  • Each class will offer a mix of teachings, guided exercises and discussions.

  • Live attendance is encouraged but not required. You can choose to attend live or go at your own pace.

  • Each class builds on the previous one. So, attending the classes in order—or listening to them in order will help you get the most from this course.

  • All registered participants will receive access to our private course platform, where you can engage in discussions, access audio recordings of each class, and download handouts and presentation slides.

  • Included in the course fee is a 50-minute individual session with me prior to the course or sometime during the six weeks.

The creation of this course is rooted in my training as both a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner (SEP) and Certified Inner Relationship Focusing Professional & Trainer.

Somatic Experiencing®  is a body-oriented approach to healing trauma and stress disorders developed by Peter A Levine, PhD.

Inner Relationship Focusing is an experiential, body-oriented process of self-awareness and emotional healing developed by Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin.

As a result of my SE training, I bring a unique trauma-informed approach to teaching Inner Relationship Focusing courses.

Course Details …

Dates: October 1st - November 5th

Time: 7pm to 8:30pm ET

Group Size: Limited to 12 Participants

Cost:

  • $365 Single Payment

  • $190 Two Monthly Payments

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*Space is limited, and enrollment will close once the course is full.

I’m committed to keeping my courses accessible and never want cost to be a barrier. That’s why I offer a no-questions-asked 20% financial aid discount—just email me and I’ll send you a code to use at checkout. And if further support is needed, please reach out and we can discuss options.

✺ Frequently Asked Questions ✺

  • No problem! You don't have to attend this course in person to participate. I realize we all live in different time zones and have different schedules.

    You can listen to the class recordings at a time that works best for you and still participate in discussions via our class platform, Ruzuku. 

  • No. Of course, you may choose to bring something we explore to your session with a Focusing partner but there will be no Focusing partnerships in this course.  

  • Up to 14 days before the first day of class: Just let me know and I'll refund your course fee.

    • If you've already had your one-to-one session with me your refund would include the course fee minus the cost of that session ($150)

    Cancellations received 13 days or fewer before class begins: No refund.

  • If you feel you didn't receive what you had hoped to receive AND you attended five out of six classes, then please let me know within 30 days after the course ends.

    My only ask is that you let me know specifically what didn't work for you so I can continue to improve my course offerings.

    Upon receiving your feedback, I'll gladly refund your course fee.

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